I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”Nobody likes to fail. But if we’re honest, we understand that failure is a part of life.

There is no success without some amount of failure. Great inventors like Thomas Edison experienced a lot of failures on the way to a successful invention. Even the best baseball players strike out much more often than they hit a home run.

Any one pursuing a goal of value will make mistakes and wrong decisions.So the key is to expect failure, to prepare for it, to be ready turn it into a lesson and a stepping stone to success. There is such a thing as a successful failure.These are some of the traits of a successful failure:

#1. OPTIMISM. FIND THE BENEFIT IN EVERY BAD EXPERIENCE.

Thomas Edison redefined the failures in his experiments as “10,000 ways that won’t work.” He expected failure and counted it as one of the costs of finding a way that would work. By finding the benefit in the failure, he was able to keep attempting something great.Optimism is not limited to a few people as a personality trait. Optimism is a choice.And while it doesn’t guarantee immediate positive results, it does result in higher-motivation and stronger character.

#2. RESPONSIBILITY. CHANGE YOUR RESPONSE TO FAILURE BY ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY

When we fail at something, it’s easy to blame someone or something else. Perhaps the circumstances or the people that we worked with. But failure is a learning opportunity.

If I blame someone else, I’m just cheating myself out of that lesson.Responsibility is more important than reputation. And it tends to lead to reward,which can lead to more responsibility. Your willingness to take responsibility marks you as someone who’s mature and can be trusted to learn from the failure and keep trying.

#3. RESILIENCE. SAY GOODBYE TO YESTERDAY.

The ability to move on from failure is key to continuing to attempt great things. The mind can only focus on so much, so if we’re still too focused on what we did wrong,we can’t give all of our attention to attempting to do things right.

Here are five behaviors of people who haven’t gotten over past difficulties:

I. Comparison. Either measuring your failures against those of others, or convincing yourself that your circumstances were harder than theirs.

II. Rationalization. Telling yourself and others that you have good reasons for not getting over past hurts and mistakes. Believing that those who encourage you “just don’t understand.

”III. Isolation. Pulling back and keeping yourself separate from others, either to avoid dealing with the issues, or to continue to feel sorry for yourself.

IV. Regret. Getting stuck lamenting or trying to fix things that cannot be changed.

V. Bitterness. Feeling like a victim and blaming others for negative outcomes.

#4. INITIATIVE.TAKE ACTION AND FACE YOUR FEAR.

When we make mistakes and then consider trying again, we all feel some measure of fear. Facing the unknown, we easily come up with a list of things to worry about.But the act of worrying doesn’t help us at all in accomplishing our goals.

“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength.”Just believing that failure can be good isn’t enough to help us succeed. We need to act on that belief and take a step forward again in pursuit of our dream. Only then do we learn from our mistakes and make progress.

A successful failure is a failure that we respond to correctly: by finding the good,taking responsibility, moving on, and taking action. How do you respond to failure?

Which of the above characteristics would you benefit from adopting?

Of the many great people I have come across, Steve Jobs is one man that I admired how he handled a couple of things. Yes I have no intention of telling you that same old story that you and I know about Steve but here are a few things you may not have considered about him or do not even know altogether.

I must also admit that as a man he was not perfect and made some sickening blunders but here are a few lessons from that great man

.Lesson #1 – Don’t give up too fast

After Jobs was booted out of Apple in 1985, he ran a high blood pressure of a conglomeration of emotions. He felt used, stabbed and moreso he was angry. How could his own very Apple, the Apple he founded kick him out? He had been awarded 7.5 million shares. You must understand that sometime in April 2012 that one share was sold at $600. In his fury Steve sold his 7.5 million shares at Apple except one. That one was left behind simply because he wants to keep receiving the financial reports. But that move soon proved to be one of the dumbest business decisions in history, for as at 2012, it was valued at $45 billion dollars, what an expensive blunder!

Lesson #2 – Partnership is one of the greatest leverage when well utilized

After Jobs dropped out of college, he still stayed around trying his hands on a couple of things while trying to find his direction. After eventually he decided to partner with Steve Wozniak who had dreams similar to his and together they founded Apple.

After making a couple of products and realizing that this was way beyond a sphere of business existence where they have to walk door-to-door marketing their products, they began looking for bigger partnerships that will bring them to business limelight.

Soon they successfully convinced the retired business mogul Mike Markkula of the profit potential their business partnership has and in a couple of months the few Billions they needed in funding was in their hands.

I would allow you imagine for a while what would have happened if Steve held unto his product, trying to claim independence and proving to everybody that he needs nobody to succeed. Your guess is as good as mine; he probably would still be as obscure as Mr. Nobody.

Lesson #3 – Getting right up again Imagine what it took him to produce his first product.

The pains, the time wasted,the experiments, the sleepless nights spent conceptualizing and strategizing but now when the company had become a fortune 500 company he was booted out.

His regret knew no bound but here’s the thing after the pains subsided, Steve began to think again. He knew quite well that although Apple had booted him out but he could be successful doing other things, so he eventually went ahead to found other very successful companies like Pixar. He knew when to leave the scene.

SOMETIMES WE LOOK TOO LONG ON A CLOSED DOOR THAT WE FAIL TO NOTICE WHEN ANOTHER ONE OPENS.

The truth is that life will hand us sucker punches often. Sometimes, we stagger,sometimes we falter and even fall but the trouble would be double if all we do is lie where we have fallen and share the blames on everyone around us.

We must not just to get up but to do that in due time.

WITH THE BENEFIT OF HINDSIGHT AND HISTORY, IT WOULD BE A BITTER EXPERIENCE TO FAIL IN THESE THINGS THAT THESE GREAT MEN FAILED AT, FOR EXPERIENCE I HAVE LEARNT IS NOT THE BEST TEACHER IN LIFE BUT OTHER PEOPLES’ EXPERIENCE.

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